Years ago I remembered getting a lot of questions about dating though I am not the one to give good advice. I remember telling my guy friends about this book, The Game, by Neil Strauss, about a writer who penetrated the society of pick-up artists and became a guru himself. While there are non-fiction that breaks attraction into science (all from a guy’s viewpoint), this is a fiction novel which is more entertaining for me, or anyone who is not looking for a how-to-interact with women-for-dummies book. The book does give give good advice for geeks and nerds alike who is scared of talking to women in public, simply to, in a gamer’s term, by getting enough experience points and going up in levels into an expert pick-up artist. In a girl’s point of view, I don’t agree with many aspects of how attraction is looked at from the so-called science of the book. The book teaches you to approach a group (not necessarily a woman) by using openings, even ridiculous ones like “Do you think magic spell really works?” and then follow up with your story. How you approach and the angle you approach (Yes I am sooo not kidding) works into this formula. It also teaches you how to “neg” a woman, which is pointing out something negative about her while complementing her to lower her confidence and indirectly increases a man’s social standing in her eyes. I don’t believe I would personally respond too well to “How much time do you spend doing your hair?” as opposed to a simple “Your hair looks nice” but these guys are so-called experts who have claimed to have picked up thousands of women to the point that they had to turn them down.
It doesn’t sound like I am recommending this book but I do acknowledge it’s entertaining value, and I think guy’s benefit from reading it, or even if they don’t follow the advice, they could ponder or speculate on what they could do to improve their “game”. And I put that around quotation because this isn’t the kind of game this site is about. Girls should read it too because when they recognize the techniques they would know they are being gamed.
What I personally believe in, which the book helps, is helping guys find how to gain confidence. It is true, and I tell all my guy friends that, girls have this 6th sense that can sense a guy’s aura, whether he is confident or not. And girls are actually not purely attracted to looks but instead, confidence (and that sometimes include the looks). And learning how to pick-up women does help a guy in gaining confidence.
As to the real gist of this article, I don’t think guys who are here at this site really want to know how to “game” a girl but instead to find girls who game. Many gamer girl colleagues have given that kind of advice so I won’t be repetitive here. I think for a guy looking for a gamer girl, he needs to embrace his geekiness and use that as a shield of your confidence. Girls who game aren’t turned off by geeks but just geeks who are awkward and ashamed of their hobbies (like Otakus), so really, talk openly about what kind of games you play and how playing games make you a better men. As long as you don’t spend 24 hours playing WOW in your mom’s basement, you can’t be that huge a turn-off?
So Guys, get the book today, read it and even though it won’t help you find a gamer girl, it will simply help you feel better about life, and maybe you can attract an open-minded girl and groom her into the ultimate gamer girlfriend. One thing I got to say though, Game tactics is infinitely less likely to work on a traditional Asian girl who’s not looking for a hot one-night stand, and it is actually not a huge turn-off if you still live with your mom (as long as you are not a total slacker). For girls, hmmm… if you are Asian and a gamer and look half as good as me chances are you are going to be worshiped like a goddess, if you are not you need to get out more and expand your social circle via facebook.
An Alternative Take (from JetFable) – The Game provided an entertaining read for me though The Game Programming Bible it is not. I didn’t find the advice too helpful but it is interesting to see what others are actually doing out there (and be envious or not of their lives). I think courting someone is a lot like launching an iPhone App, if it’s not a hit, sometimes any features update is not going to help sales, the important thing is learning to move on. The Game teaches you whether a girl is going to sleep with you (think of that as the last boss fight) is determined in the first 2 minutes, whether that is true or not is not really the issue (every girl you come across is going to tell you that’s bullshit, just ask Zilla). But if you “gamed” like an lion hunting for food in the jungle you are not going to keep chasing the rabbit that keeps getting away because a lion don’t hunt with pride, but with hunger. You might think she is the “one” and chances are you probably don’t know her enough for it to be worth it anyway. And in the Game, master pick-up artists would ask a girl to sleep with them as an opening line (the do you believe in magic line doesn’t sound as ridiculous in hindsight), you may think it ridiculous, but if you think about it, it is all about the setting, if they were doing it at a cougar bar, chances are the women there are looking for one night stands anyway so whoever dare approach and make a bold move is going to attract them and get some, but the same situation would not apply in Starbucks. So, believe that 2-minute rule, for your benefit. And… believe me, a good wing-woman is worth 10 good wing-men, or 20 BBQ chicken wings.
